Ms. Luvly On Love

As I sit here listening to him create his music, I start to reminisce about the first day. Same two people 2 separate angles. But there I was listening to his music. It filled the room and my ears. I couldn't even see his face but I was already intrigued and mesmerized by him. I was just getting into music and I had never watched anyone build a beat before. I had only heard the music , people sing to the music or rap to the music. I was amazed. The sound of the music and the way he moved his body as he created was enough to pull me in. Never even cared what he looked like at this point I was already gone. Then he turned around with these bright eyes and an amazing smile. He had me at hello. I loved him at his purest form. I didn't know who he was or where he came from. It was a while before I even knew his real name. I knew nothing about him I just knew I loved him. As I write this I realized that I have experience things with him that I never experience wi...

I'm going to vent for a minute about certain women... Wake The Fuck Up!!! I CAN'T STAND SOME OF YOU WOMEN! Y'all Make me sick! Easy and no self worth type of women! I don't care who this offends. If it offends you then it fits you. I'm talking about the women that will sleep with anything that have a penis, the women that give a man all her money, women that accept the "Come to my house" type of dudes, women that have kids all fast with someone they don't know, women that expose their kids to men that they don't know, those types of women. I can go on and on and on. I'm going to come off judgmental as shit but FUCK IT! This is why relationships are fucked up. Its not the men its the women. The women with no standard or act hard up. Ya'll ruin it for the rest of us because y'all make it so easy for these men to be nothing. The men don't have to have a standard because y'all come with none. You sleep with other peoples m...

I want to welcome myself back. It's almost been a year since I lasted posted a blog. I just think I kind of lost my drive to write. I have had a lot of things going on in my life that I needed to tend to. I'm going to make an effort to try and post something once a week or once every other week, just to get things up and running again. I am going to reach out to my followers on Instagram for help with topics. My Instagram is @iammsluvly . I just need some topics that I can write about. But the only problem is I will probably hurt some feelings if certain people decide to read my blog. But I honestly dont care because they are not people I fuck with. Soooooo let the fun begin... Ms. Luvly

What is a bedroom relationship do you ask? Well let me explain it to you... A bedroom relationship is exactly what it says. A relationship base in the bedroom only.  Ever met a guy and you really like him but the only thing you can get him to do is come over your house and that's it. He not available to you to go out on a "date". He's only available to come over, eat your food, watch your TV and fuck. That's a bedroom relationship. It has no substance and it doesn't go further then your house.  There are a lot of people that swear  they have a great relationship because they spend a lot of time together. Awww that's sweet. Then I'll ask, "So what do y'all do, where do y'all go?" Crickets! lol They don't go anywhere, they don't do anything, they don't travel outside of their city. The most traveling they do together is run to the store to buy food to eat in from of the TV. lol  If every time you see som...

I know this is a difficult topic to talk about and I know that a lot of women will not appreciate this, but this is actually more to help women than men. So let me begin... In my experience in this relationship world (which right now I can't stand lol) I have learned a lot of mistakes that men make that get them caught up in drama because lack of knowledge on how to cheat.  Guys cheat for whatever their reason and still stay in a relationship and call it love. But I never understood why a man would cheat on his lady and not get rid of all evidence. Do they not realize by now that a lot of women are a bunch of snoops and they will always find out what's going on. Or that a woman's intuition is really strong. I just want to knock a man up against his head or shake some sense in them. Wake them up so that they can see that their reckless actions are doing a lot of harm to a lot of women which is causing a huge amount of hurt that comes back full circle. So I...

Lies There is an epidemic going on where no matter how small the situation men lie and they lie easy. Why is it so hard for a man to tell the truth? So, you are interested in this guy. You have great conversations, laugh, joke and talk on the phone for hours. You start catching feeling for this guy. All of a sudden you are feeling that he is the one. You have so much in common, how can you not feel that way. You two have even taken the relationship to another level and had sex. You are thinking he is such a great guy, darn near flawless. Then all of a sudden BOOM!!! You find out that he just had a baby. Then you start to calculate the time spent to the time it takes to conceive and give birth and the math doesn't add up. "So you men to tell me all this time that I have given you, you had a baby on the way?" This is the question you ask yourself. How did this man go without letting this woman know that he had a child on the way? Is he already in a relationship? W...

"We are just friends"... says who? This is the escape of relationships nowadays. No title no explanation. Excuses for people to do what they want and still reap the rewards. Friendships dont involve sex. That's not friendship so people stop putting that title on it. It's not even "Homie Lover Fried" that doesnt even really exist. Lets just say what it really is... Using. Real friends dont partake in "relationship" behaviors. You dont see a woman having sex with her girlfriends or a man having sex with his homies and saying "Oh we just "friends".Ok on some rare occasion that happens but lets keep it real. This s a lame excuse for people to use to get what they want out of a person without putting a commitment to it so that they can continue to have sex with multiple people. I find it sad and rather disgusting that people use so easily. Then expect the person not to feel some type of way or try to stake claim. How can you continue to e...

I haven't wrote a blog in a LONG time, but today I was inspired to do so. So here goes... I titled this blog Love because that's basically what it is about. I responded to a post today on Facebook about love hurting. The person wrote, "Be careful who you love because love is pain and it might be a pain that aspirin cant make go away." Nice try at explaining hurt and love but it was a no go. I told them love is not hurt. I really don't think they comprehended what I was trying to explain. They said you can love someone so much that it hurts and I told them that's infatuation. Then they said that they knew someone that broke up with a person and hurt for a long time after. I told them that's different than hurting in a relationship. Of course everything got twisted. They seem to get offended with my "Advice" when I actually wasn't offering up any. Too funny to me. Anyway so I am writing this blog to break it down from Ms. Luvly...

This is a question that I always ask. "Who Really Is Single?" So here is how I got to that question again.... Yesterday I had a instant message conversation with that guy on Facebook. He had just sent me a friend request. About 20 mins after I accepted the request he instant messaged me. It caught me off guard because it was very fast. So we was having a conversation and he asked me was I single. The Big Question! So my response back to him was, "Who really is single nowadays." So there for that gave him neither a Yes or No answer. I told him, "I'm not married". So he responded, "Ok." So all last night I was up thinking about it. I was asking myself if I was completely single. That answer is No. Honestly I don't think any adult nowadays is truly single. If they are it is rare. There is always someone out there that can claim you and say, "He/She is mine." For instance, if a man is dating a woman and he is having sexual enco...

Gosh, I don't know where to start... I swear having a conversation with a woman nowadays is like talking to a wall. I'm not saying "ALL" women just a lot. lol Ok... a Facebook friend (Man) started a topic stating how there are not a lot of women that hold a man down mentally physically and financially. Well this is true because a lot of women nowadays have their hands out. Plus if you hold a man down like that women are looked at as stupid. They are told they are being used and so on and so forth. Maybe they actually have a decent man that looks out for them just as well. See this is were we need to keep people out of our personal business. Anyway, a lot of women commented on the post. It started out ok, but my problem is the information and the advice that the women was posting was generic advice. It's like this advice was recycled from uneducated in relationship women that think they know what they are talking about. I bet 90% of them haven't even had a lo...

So I was on twitter last night tweeting some friends. Mind you, I am finally getting to enjoy the site. At first I thought it was stupid but now I actually enjoy. Anyways, I can't figure out how or why people use the social media sites to air all their dirty laundry. I mean the details not vague statements. So there was a female online that was "Subtweeting" my friends man. The female used to "date" if that's what you call it. Oh, subtweeting is when you say something to someone without @ their name. So here is the story... The young lady met the guy on twitter and from what I heard she only knew him for a couple of weeks and had sex with him. During their sexual escapades she told him she "Loved" him. Um, that's really fast. Then she continued to tell him she loved him. I was wondering if he really put it on her or if she is just plain dumb. Then he fell back because he was feeling uncomfortable. Now I am not knocking her feelings, I just th...

I have notice lately a lot of men expressing how it is hard to find a decent woman nowadays. WTH (What The Hell for those that don't know short text hand). Anyway, I don't get it. If the women are saying its a shortage and the men cant find loyalty where is everyone looking and why cant these women meet those men? I have to admit that the men that I know that really want a relationship I happen to not be interested in them and the one I am interested in isn't ready. People always want what they cant have. I want to say to those guys so bad, "Here I am!!! A decent, driven, loving, loyal, humble woman!" But I know I'm not their right match and they know too or they would approach me. But it is ironic that the tables are turning and more men are looking for that special lady. They probably already had her and messed it up. Now they are on the hunt and keep meeting the "Ladies Of The Night". Those are the women just out to screw and use. I want to hug ev...

Where is he already?! I am looking forward to this documentary from Tony Gaskin to come out.  CHECK IT OUT!!! Ms. Luvly

I haven't written anything in a long time. Been very busy with life, stress and other ventures. I felt it was over due.  So today's topic i am going to get personal. I usually write vague but today I'm going to be more direct. So over the last 4 to five months I have been approached by different men that were interested in me. But here is the thing, they were more interested in sexing me. Typical guys. I've turned them down because that isn't what I want in my life right now. So the crazy thing about the advances is the lack of respect I have gotten from these men because of my choice. I've been called an old grandma, I've been told my pussy was dried up and so on and so forth. It's crazy! Here is what I tell them when I am approached. I let them know that I am not having random sex. That I am  looking for a relationship, that I refused to give my self freely to someone that doesn't want more than a fling. I lay it all out on the table. Now I don...

How to have love? That was always one big question that I always asked. I wanted love so badly that I wanted to know every which way I had to go about getting it. But the answer to that question lies within yourself. The answer is... focus on yourself and love yourself. That simple. It really is, but it isn't that simple. The answer is simple but the action is hard. When you are so used to focusing on receiving love from someone you tend to make them the focal point in your life and you put yourself on the back burner. So you have to turn that around. Take the focus off of them and put it ALL on you. When you put yourself first and love yourself unconditionally, which means accepting all your flaws then love can follow. Ask yourself these questions...  1. Do you love yourself in whole? 2. Do you put yourself first? 3. Would you want to be with you in the state that you are right now? If your answers to these questions are honestly yes then you are ...

I have been M.I.A for a minute. It's not like I haven't had anything to write about. I have just been doing some growing and more research on this thing called love. So I will be back at it blogging as much as possible my views on love and sex...

I really think that the biggest mistake that women make in their life is giving up who they are for who they love. We lose sight of ourselves because we focus too much on what the other person wants. Whatever happened to the day where you could support and love the other person and still focus on yourself at the same time? Those days are now gone. If you cant be yourself in a relationship then that's not the relationship tat you should be in. Don't lose yourself because of love. If that's the case then that's not love. Put your wants first. Always... 

Since the New Year has come around I have had great revelations. I was trying to figure out why in the world I, yes me was having so much relationship problems recently. Then it hit me... KARMA!!! I have not been a good girl over the last couple of years. I say from 2007 to 2011 I have done some unquestionable things. Should I tell my secrets?? Naw!!! lol I might just elaborate on them. Let's just say I dealt with people that I had no business being with and I know I hurt other people in the process but I didn't care. Most of the time I practice what I preach but I swear I so zoned out. I was a little wild and I am glad I caught myself and tied myself down. Then I am wondering why I have had problems. I'm just going to offer this little advice. Think about what you do before you do it. I mean really do. Plus don't do anything to anyone else that you don't want done to you. Ok let's just say I have interfered in a relationship and didn't care. (smacking my ha...

Strong is not pretending that everything in life is peaches and cream or holding back your emotions. Strong is learning how to deal with the everyday struggles and learning from them. Strong is knowing when to cry, when to hurt, when to be angry. Strong is knowing when to smile, when to laugh, when to be happy. Strong is knowing how to use all those levels of emotions to build a better soul. Not a ct like you have no emotion. Strong is knowing how to handle a situation with out judging and trying to see things clearly. Strong is knowing when to share your emotions with family and friends. Strong is using the vessel that God gave you to it's fullest. That's what I do everyday in my life and if people don't appreciate that about me than so be it...

Some people get into relationships for the wrong reasons. Everything seems so peaches and cream in the beginning, but once things start to go sour then what? As a women things go sour and we still try to fight for it, knowing that we are in a fight by ourselves. Ladies once you feel it's over it's over. Stop trying to make shit out of nothing. I say this from experience. Think about when you are in a situation and you don't like how it's going. You feel in your gut that it's not right but you continue on trying to make it work. Why the hell is that. Why not just cut your loses and keep it moving instead of suffering. That's like I tell people all the time, how it is before you get married is how it's going to be after. It you argue all the time in your relationship and there is no communication then that's how it's going to be. People don't change and if they do it's rare. I'm not going to say all because some people only have to mature. ...